Category: Personal development

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Maybe the Squeaky Wheel Shouldn’t Get the Grease

In a healthy relationship, there will be some issues that arise. It’s the parts of the relationship that are working well that balance out the rough spots. The key is to determine which issues are deal-breakers and which ones are simply annoying but not destructive to the relationship as a whole.

So, it’s important to address the squeaks, but don’t forget to take care of the quiet wheels. Neglecting them can cause them to become noisy and create bigger problems down the road. By taking care of all the wheels, you can keep the relationship running smoothly for the long haul.

Learn more about Counseling in Austin.

Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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How Successful People Leverage Failure and Rejection

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
— Michael Jordan

Dealing with Failure: Tips for Turning Setbacks into Success

We’ve all experienced the distress that comes with failure and rejection. It can be painful and hard to endure, but there are ways to use it to your advantage. By learning, building resiliency, and being determined, you can change the experience from a defeat into a pesky setback full of lessons.

Understanding the Emotions and Thoughts Behind Failure

Failure and rejection can cause feelings of disappointment, sadness, despair, anger, frustration, and anxiety. Thoughts can lead to self-loathing, self-pity, blame, regret, analysis paralysis, vengeance, the fantasy of better outcomes, and assumptions of letting others down. Being aware of these emotions and thoughts is the first step in managing them.

Managing Distressing Thoughts and Emotions: Tips for Success

Experiencing negative emotions and thoughts can be a challenging experience, but it can also provide valuable insights and opportunities for growth. Here are some tips to help you manage distressing thoughts and emotions effectively.

  1. Feel Your Emotions: All emotions are essential and are trying to help you, even the unpleasant ones. Pain wants relief. Fear wants safety. Confusion wants clarity. Allow yourself to feel your emotions fully, without judgment. Mindfulness can help you become more aware of what you need and how to get it.
  1. Name Your Emotions: When you name your emotions, you gain clarity and a better understanding of what discomfort is asking of you. Naming your feelings also helps you cut through the clutter of judgment.
  1. Examine Your Emotions: Being curious helps you keep an open mind, which can help you see ideas that you might have otherwise missed. Creativity is often an essential element of effectively examining feelings for lessons.
  1. Learn From Your Emotions: Failure can be a powerful teacher. Learning from mistakes and setbacks can help you grow and become better equipped to handle challenges in the future. Celebrate your successes, and don’t be afraid to learn from failures. Remember, sometimes it takes multiple attempts before we achieve success.
  1. Integrate Your Lessons: Integrating the lessons learned from your emotions into successful behavior change is crucial. Information acquisition is only the first step. Learning is the integration of that information into a new way of being. So, what we are going for is learning, not just taking in information.
  1. Reframe Your Experience: Look for the successful or interesting/fun parts of your experience, even if you are facing a failure or rejection. Celebrating your successes can give you a boost to get through the disappointment. This optimistic mindset also makes it easier to learn from future projects.
  1. Focus on What to Do: Apply the lessons learned from your experiences as a starting point for your next attempt. Instead of focusing on what not to do, look for obvious signs that might give you a signal of something going awry. When dealing with people, you might notice a stiffening up or a look of discomfort on the other person’s face. Taking time to ask colleagues and friends for their take can help you triangulate the information to use.
  1. Cultivate a Champion Mindset: Developing a champion mindset means embracing failure as an opportunity to learn and grow. It means examining mistakes and failures for lessons and remaining determined to keep learning. Adopting this approach can help you develop resilience, persistence, and grit. Remember, determination is the key to success.

Managing distressing thoughts and emotions is a process that requires patience, self-compassion, and persistence. With these tips, you can learn to manage your emotions and thoughts more effectively, embrace failure as a learning opportunity, and cultivate a champion mindset that will help you achieve your goals.

Updated December 3, 2023

Learn more about Counseling in Austin.

Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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It’s Probably Not About You: A lesson in not taking things personally

Understanding the Root of Behavior

In moments when someone cuts you off in traffic or a friend acts snappy, it’s easy to take their behavior personally. However, it’s crucial to realize that more often than not, their actions are not a commentary on your worth. Instead, they’re a reflection of their own mindset and circumstances. Quite often, people, including you and me, don’t even realize how irritated we are coming across. Sometimes this is a result of a bad day, or we are just deep in thought about something frustrating.

Compassion in Everyday Scenarios

For instance, consider the driver who hastily cut you off. They may be racing to the hospital with an injured child in the backseat or rushing to the vet due to a pet emergency. Or, perhaps they’re just having a particularly bad day and being discourteous. Even if they believe they should be ahead of you, it doesn’t diminish your value as a person.

This concept extends to various situations, beyond the realm of road rage. When someone appears irritable or snappy with you, it’s often a reflection of their internal struggles. Even if you’ve had a tense encounter with them, it may not be about you but rather how they interact with others. However, if you acknowledge your own unkind behavior, it’s an opportunity for personal growth and reflection.

People Reflect Their Inner Emotions

This phenomenon is particularly evident in children, whose emotional centers are not yet fully connected to their language and logic centers. When upset, they tend to “act out,” and this pattern continues in kids from challenging family environments, who may frequently find themselves in trouble. Adults, too, exhibit this behavior, albeit in more intricate and subtle ways. Remember, whether we are talking about an adult or a child, almost every problematic behavior is rooted in a perfectly valid need . . . the person may need help expressing this need.

Understanding Behavioral Patterns

For example, consider a boss who unjustly berates an employee at work, and then the employee returns home to yell at their dog without cause. This behavior isn’t about the dog; it’s an expression of the employee’s emotional state. The same principle applies to the boss’s outburst at the employee; it’s more about their frame of mind than the employee’s actions. Similarly, actions like being passive-aggressive, manipulative, or using defensive debate techniques often reflect the individual’s internal mindset.

It is important to stress that while a person’s mindset can alter how they treat people, it does not excuse it. When you are the offending party, be sure to take responsibility with an apology.

The Power of Agreements

In Don Miguel Ruiz’s book “The Four Agreements,” which draws from ancient Toltec teachings, the second agreement is “Don’t take things personally.”

Embracing “Don’t Take Things Personally”

When someone’s behavior triggers you, remember that it’s about them, not you. However, if you find yourself becoming defensive, that’s about you. Your defensiveness provides insight into your own emotional state. To enhance your life and support others in doing the same, practice mindfulness and take responsibility for your thoughts and actions. This approach empowers you to create a more fulfilling life for yourself and those around you.

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*Updated October 23, 2023

Learn more about Counseling in Austin and how we can help you find happiness.

Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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Finances, Budgeting and Mental Health

The Connection Between Finances and Mental Health

Finances are not the number one reason for suffering; it’s an attachment to financial or material gain that is the root of suffering. However, money is often cited as the number one reason for relationship stress. Even for single individuals, money can be a primary source of stress. Learning to manage your finances effectively can reduce concerns about meeting budget needs and provide you with the funds you need for much-needed downtime.

Understanding Your Income and Spending Patterns

Create a Spending Journal

Begin your journey to financial well-being by selecting a tracking method that suits your preferences, whether it’s a pen and paper or a computer. This method provides a genuine snapshot of your financial decisions, revealing how even minor expenses, such as lottery tickets, alcohol, or cigarettes, can accumulate significantly over time.

Compile a comprehensive list of your monthly bills, encompassing your rent or mortgage, insurance, utilities, phone and internet bills, car-related expenses, health insurance, groceries, entertainment, personal care, and recurring expenses like car repairs, holidays, and hobbies. This in-depth snapshot of your spending habits offers valuable insights for effective budget planning.

To anticipate unforeseen costs, include specific line items in your budget for “miscellaneous” or “unexpected” expenses, with an allocation of $50-100 for each category. Even with just one $50 line item, you’ll establish a $600 annual cushion.

Build a Cushion: Round Expenses Up and Income Down

To prepare for unexpected expenses, consider two primary approaches: Include line items for “Misc.” or “Unexpected” with $50-100 budgeted for each. Alternatively, round your after-tax income down and your expenses up, creating two additional layers of cushion. For example, if your rent is $830 per month, round it up to $850, and if your net paycheck is $2200, round it down to $2100 or even $2000. Keeping a record of the actual, non-rounded numbers for reference while planning your spending is beneficial.

How to Split and Share Dual-Income Family Funds

Managing finances in a dual-income family can be a complex task, but the hybrid method is often the most effective solution. This approach balances individual and household needs by maintaining both private and joint accounts.

The Hybrid Method: A Practical Solution for Managing Finances as a Couple

The Hybrid Method is a great way to balance individual and household needs when it comes to finances. Both partners deposit their paychecks into their own private accounts and then transfer a specific dollar amount or a percentage of their income to a joint account. Start by creating a budget to determine how much money you need to cover expenses and have some cushion left over. Decide how much each partner should transfer to the joint account, with the remaining money in the individual accounts free to be used as each person sees fit.

Set a threshold for individual purchases that trigger a discussion to keep each other informed. For example, some couples say any personal purchases over $1000 should be discussed beforehand. Exceptions to this rule include large gifts like diamond rings for anniversaries where you don’t want to ruin the surprise. Prioritize funding the joint account first and make it a habit to revisit your budget regularly. Monthly or quarterly check-ins are common, but starting with weekly check-ins in the beginning is fine. At least every six months, or more frequently if necessary, check in to make adjustments and ensure that the Hybrid Method continues to work for you.

Seeking Guidance for Financial Well-Being

Managing your finances effectively can lead to a healthier, stress-free life. If you find yourself facing challenges in this area, remember that you don’t have to navigate them alone. Professional guidance and support can make a significant difference. I’m here to assist you on your journey to financial well-being, offering insights, strategies, and a helping hand to achieve your goals while maintaining your sanity. Don’t hesitate to reach out, and together, we can create the life satisfaction you are looking for.

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Learn more about how Counseling in Austin can help you manage discomfort related to finances.

 Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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Autism Spectrum and Making Friends

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A Guide for Teens and Young Adults with ASD to Make Friends
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Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Finding Friendship

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is the new term for what used to be called Asperger’s Disorder. It can be thought of as being on a spectrum ranging from mild to severe. Asperger’s (now ASD) would be on the lower end. Many people with ASD are employed, successful in academics, live fully independent lives, and go on to get married and have families. They tend to struggle with repetitive movements, social skills, and interpreting social cues. However, managing ASD is possible with the right help!
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Developing and maintaining friendships can be a rewarding and fulfilling aspect of life for teens and young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). While building social connections might present unique challenges, there are effective strategies that can help individuals with ASD foster meaningful relationships. In this blog post, we’ll provide practical advice to help teens and young adults navigate the social landscape and build lasting friendships.

  1. Understand Your Strengths: Recognize and embrace your unique strengths and qualities. Everyone has something valuable to offer in a friendship, and acknowledging your positive traits can boost your self-confidence.
  2. Identify Shared Interests: Seek out activities, hobbies, or groups that align with your interests. Joining clubs or engaging in activities related to your passions can help you connect with others who share your hobbies.
  3. Practice Social Skills: Engage in role-playing or social skills training to improve your ability to initiate conversations, maintain eye contact, and engage in small talk. Practicing these skills can make social interactions feel more comfortable.
  4. Use Technology to Connect: Online platforms and social media can be a great way to initiate conversations and build connections in a less overwhelming environment. Join online communities or groups that focus on your interests.
  5. Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that friendships take time to develop. Not every interaction will lead to a deep connection, and that’s okay. Focus on building a variety of relationships.
  6. Learn About Nonverbal Cues: Study nonverbal cues, body language, and facial expressions to better understand the emotions and intentions of others. This knowledge can help you navigate social situations effectively.
  7. Practice Active Listening: Pay attention to what others are saying and show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings. Active listening helps create a sense of connection and fosters meaningful conversations.
  8. Express Your Boundaries: Be open about your needs and boundaries in friendships. Clear communication helps avoid misunderstandings and creates a foundation of mutual respect.
  9. Engage in Group Activities: Participate in group activities, workshops, or classes that interest you. These settings provide opportunities for gradual social interaction within a structured environment.
  10. Reach Out Gradually: Approach potential friends with a gradual progression of interactions. Start with casual conversations and gradually increase the depth of your interactions as you feel more comfortable.
  11. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate every positive step you take in building friendships, no matter how small. Each interaction is an opportunity for growth.

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Conclusions

Making friends as a teen or young adult with ASD is a journey that requires patience, effort, and self-compassion. By embracing your strengths, seeking shared interests, practicing social skills, and using technology to connect, you can navigate social interactions with greater ease. Remember that building friendships is about mutual understanding, respect, and shared experiences. With determination, practice, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, you can cultivate meaningful connections that enrich your life and contribute to your overall well-being.

ASD Resources

American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry – The AACAP provides a wealth of information on Autism and ASD

Autism Speaks – A non-profit organization dedicated to providing information and support around Autism and ASD

CDC – The CDC provides up-to-date information on a wide variety of conditions, including Autism and ASD

*Updated October 4, 2023

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Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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Preparing for College: A 6-Step-Guide

Preparing High School Seniors for the Transition to College Life

The transition from high school to college marks a significant milestone in the lives of young adults. It’s a time filled with anticipation, excitement, and even a touch of uncertainty. As high school seniors prepare to embark on this journey, there are valuable steps they can take to ensure a smooth transition, both academically and emotionally. In this blog post, we’ll explore essential tips and insights for high school seniors as they prepare to move away from home and enter the world of college.

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Step 1: Academic Preparation: Setting the Foundation

Before heading off to college, high school seniors should focus on integrating their academic foundation. This includes:

  • Reviewing and strengthening essential subject areas. Graduating seniors need to keep in mind that they will be taking several of the same classes in college that they took in high school.
  • Developing effective study habits and time management skills. Consider a structured study plan*.
  • Seeking guidance from high school counselors and teachers to ensure they are academically prepared for the challenges of college coursework.

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What the Professionals Say

*As high school seniors prepare to transition to college life, it’s essential to consider the insights shared by professionals. Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s advises graduating seniors “While some college courses may cover similar subject matter as high school classes, they often move at a faster pace and delve deeper into the material. To thrive academically, students can benefit from adopting a structured study plan, such as the Pomodoro Method, which enhances the efficiency and effectiveness of study sessions.”
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Step 2:

Exploring Career Goals: A Time for Self-Discovery

College offers a unique opportunity for students to explore various career paths. High school seniors can:

  • Reflect on their interests, passions, and long-term career goals.
  • Research potential majors and fields of study.
  • Seek internships or part-time jobs related to their interests to gain valuable real-world experience.

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What the Professionals Say

High school seniors should bear in mind that declaring a major isn’t an immediate requirement upon entering college. While specific programs may necessitate an early decision, many students have the flexibility to explore various academic paths. Even if you do select a major, remember that changes are possible. It’s advisable to consult your academic advisor to assess any potential adjustments to your college journey and estimated graduation date.

Furthermore, your choice of major doesn’t confine you to a single career trajectory. The path you embark upon in college doesn’t dictate your professional destiny. Consider that you can return to school for additional degrees or pursue vocational courses at a community college to prepare for new career prospects. Many individuals find themselves transitioning into entirely different fields throughout their careers, evolving naturally over time. For instance, I know several individuals with Master’s degrees in counseling who progressed into management roles, eventually specializing in statistical analysis—an unexpected but fulfilling career evolution for them. And they could still switch back again! Education should not put you in a box; it should get you out.

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Step 3:

Financial Planning: Navigating College Costs

Understanding the financial aspects of college is crucial. Seniors can:

  • Explore scholarships, grants, and financial aid opportunities.
  • Create a budget and savings plan.
  • Familiarize themselves with the costs associated with college life, such as tuition, housing, textbooks, and living expenses. And yes, entertainment!

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What the Professionals Say

In the college context, achieving a “Work-Life Balance” often translates into managing an “Academics-Life Balance.” Many college students choose to work to support their education financially. When taking on employment alongside their studies, students should carefully consider the academic load they can handle. Instead of diving headfirst into a demanding 15-credit semester loaded with math and science courses, it’s wise to ease into the college experience gradually.

Begin by working a manageable number of hours and enrolling in a smaller number of classes. This allows for a smoother adjustment to the demands of college life. As you gain confidence and maintain good academic standing, you can progressively increase your work hours or take on additional classes in subsequent semesters. This gradual approach ensures that you strike a balance between academic achievement and work commitments, ultimately setting the stage for a successful college journey.
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Step 4:

Emotional Preparation: The Transition Away from Home

Moving away from home can be emotionally challenging. High school seniors can:

  • Engage in open and honest discussions with their families about the upcoming transition.
  • Develop coping strategies to manage homesickness and stress. Remember, your family and friends are only a phone call away; and these days, video calls keep everybody closer than ever!
  • Familiarize themselves with campus resources, such as counseling services, to provide emotional support.
  • Enjoy new friendships. Most other students will be going through the same thing as you.

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What the Professionals Say

Remember that for parents letting go of their young adult children is a very difficult time for them as well. They may try to control more than you are comfortable with, but it is because they love you and want you to have a wonderful time in college. Try to be patient and let them help you. If they are going a bit too far, be respectful and simply tell them how you feel. Most parents will understand and do their best to dial it back a little bit. Sometimes, parents will want to help you make the move and will offer to help you make the trip. Unless there is a truly compelling reason to not allow this, graciously accept their help. While this is a time for you to launch into your new autonomy, you’ll find the help moving in will be nice. Keep in mind, they’ve raised you for around 18 years now and you’ll have plenty of time without them once they hit the road.
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Step 5:

Practical Skills: Preparing for Independence

Practical skills are essential for college life. Seniors can:

  • Learn basic cooking and meal planning.
  • Practice laundry, cleaning, and other essential life skills. Better to shrink and discolor your clothes while at home.
  • Develop strong communication and problem-solving skills to navigate dorm life and roommate dynamics. Seek out guidance from older friends, parents, or others who have gone through the transition to independence already. A trusted counselor will be able to help you with this as well.

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What the Professionals Say

When it comes to learning to cook, do laundry, safely clean, and effectively budget, a Home Economics class in high school is a great idea. It is not just about cooking and cleaning; it is about economics as well. Asking your parents, aunts & uncles, counselors, scout leaders, etc. is also a great way of getting information about “adulting.”

Regarding cleaning, some young adults are not aware that mixing bleach and ammonia creates potentially fatal vapors, so it is a bad idea to try and mix the two chemicals to address those stubborn stains on the countertop.

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Step 6:

Building a Support Network: Finding a Sense of Belonging

The transition to college is smoother when students have a support network in place. Seniors can:

  • Attend college orientation programs to meet peers and faculty.
  • Join clubs and organizations aligned with their interests.
  • Connect with mentors and upperclassmen for guidance and advice.
  • Get together with other peers who are going to the same college and start making social plans for once you arrive.

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What the Professionals Say

Many college seniors make plans to rush for membership in a fraternity or sorority. While this certainly is a way to increase your peer group, be sure that you know what is involved in rushing, at that you know how to keep your academics as your priority.
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Conclusion

The journey from high school to college is a pivotal time of growth, learning, and self-discovery. By taking proactive steps in academic preparation, career exploration, financial planning, emotional readiness, and practical skills development, high school seniors can confidently embrace the challenges and opportunities that await them. College life is not just about academics; it’s a holistic experience that shapes character and fosters independence. As these young adults prepare to spread their wings and venture into the world of higher education, they are poised for a transformative and enriching journey ahead.

Learn more about how we can help you find balance in your life.

Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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Autism Spectrum and Dating

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A Guide for Teens and Young Adults with ASD
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Going on a date can be an exciting yet nerve-wracking experience, especially for teens and young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). The key to a successful date lies in being authentic, respectful, and considerate of your own needs and those of your date. In this blog post, we’ll provide you with practical tips to help teens and young adults, particularly males, with ASD act confidently on a date, ensuring a positive experience for both parties involved.

  1. Be Yourself: Authenticity is the foundation of a successful date. Be true to who you are and let your genuine personality shine. Your date should get to know the real you.
  2. Practice Active Listening: Show genuine interest in your date by actively listening to what they say. Ask follow-up questions and engage in meaningful conversations. Active listening helps create a connection and shows that you value their thoughts.
  3. Maintain Eye Contact: Maintaining eye contact demonstrates attentiveness and interest. While it may feel challenging, even brief moments of eye contact can help establish a sense of connection.
  4. Be Mindful of Body Language: Pay attention to your body language. Stand or sit up straight, avoid fidgeting excessively, and avoid crossing your arms, as these may unintentionally communicate disinterest.
  5. Choose Topics of Conversation: Opt for light, neutral topics to start the conversation. Discuss shared interests, hobbies, or experiences. Avoid diving into overly personal or sensitive subjects right away.
  6. Share Stories and Experiences: Sharing anecdotes and stories can help create a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere. Use humor and positive experiences to foster a comfortable dynamic.
  7. Express Curiosity: Ask open-ended questions about your date’s interests, hobbies, and experiences. This shows that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them better.
  8. Compliment Sincerely: Compliments can be a great way to make your date feel appreciated. Offer sincere compliments about their appearance or something you genuinely admire.
  9. Respect Personal Space and Boundaries: Be mindful of personal space and physical boundaries. Respect your date’s comfort level and avoid invading their personal space without permission.
  10. Show Respect and Courtesy: Treat your date with respect and courtesy throughout the evening. Use polite language, hold doors open, and show appreciation for their company.
  11. Enjoy the Moment: Focus on enjoying the experience and getting to know your date. Stay present in the moment rather than worrying about how the date is progressing.
  12. End the Date Graciously: When the date concludes, express gratitude for their time and company. You can express your interest in future plans if you feel a connection.

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Conclusions

Acting confidently on a date as a teen or young adult with ASD is about being genuine, respectful, and considerate. By practicing active listening, maintaining eye contact, and engaging in meaningful conversations, you can create a positive and enjoyable experience for both you and your date. Remember that each interaction is an opportunity to learn and grow. With authenticity and a willingness to connect, you can navigate the dating world with confidence and make meaningful connections that enrich your life.

ASD Resources

American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry – The AACAP provides a wealth of information on Autism and ASD

Autism Speaks – A non-profit organization dedicated to providing information and support around Autism and ASD

CDC – The CDC provides up-to-date information on a wide variety of conditions, including Autism and ASD

*Updated October 4, 2023

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Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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A Guide to Developing Strong Social Skills

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A Guide for Teenagers and Tweenagers
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Navigating the complex world of social interactions as a teenager can be both exciting and challenging. Developing strong social skills is crucial for building meaningful relationships, fostering self-confidence, and preparing for success in the future. In this blog post, we’ll provide teenagers with practical advice and tips to enhance their social skills, helping them navigate social situations with authenticity and ease.

  1. Understanding Social Cues: Pay attention to nonverbal cues such as body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. These cues often convey emotions and intentions that words alone might not express. By being attuned to these signals, you can respond appropriately and engage in more meaningful conversations.
  2. Active Listening: Practice active listening by focusing on what the other person is saying without interrupting or thinking about your response. Ask follow-up questions to show genuine interest and understanding. Active listening not only helps you connect with others but also fosters empathy and deeper relationships.
  3. Initiating Conversations: Overcome shyness by practicing the art of starting conversations. Begin with simple greetings and open-ended questions to engage others. Common topics like hobbies, interests, or shared experiences can be great conversation starters.
  4. Body Language and Eye Contact: Maintain confident and open body language when interacting with others. Stand or sit up straight, make eye contact, and offer a friendly smile. This conveys your approachability and interest in the conversation.
  5. Managing Social Media: While social media can be a tool for connection, it’s important to strike a balance. Use online platforms to maintain relationships, but remember that face-to-face interactions are essential for practicing social skills and building genuine connections.
  6. Empathy and Understanding: Put yourself in others’ shoes to understand their feelings and perspectives. This will help you respond with kindness and compassion, creating a positive and supportive social environment.
  7. Respecting Boundaries: Recognize the importance of personal space and boundaries. Avoid invasive questions and respect others’ comfort levels. Building trust requires respecting individual boundaries.
  8. Conflict Resolution: Conflicts are natural, but resolving them in a healthy manner is key. Address issues calmly and assertively, using “I” statements to express your feelings. Listen to the other person’s perspective and work together to find a solution.
  9. Showing Appreciation: Express gratitude and appreciation for your friends’ presence and support. Small gestures like saying “thank you” or giving compliments can strengthen your relationships.
  10. Practice, Patience, and Positivity: Developing social skills takes time, practice, and patience. Don’t be discouraged by setbacks; view them as opportunities for growth. Stay positive and believe in your ability to connect with others.

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Building strong social skills as a teenager is an ongoing journey that contributes to personal growth, confidence, and meaningful connections. By understanding social cues, practicing active listening, and fostering empathy, you can navigate social situations with authenticity and ease. Remember that developing these skills takes time and effort, so be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress. As you continue to refine your social skills, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of social interactions and create meaningful relationships that last a lifetime.

*Published August 25, 2023

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Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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Effective Study Strategies for Teen Success

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Navigating the world of academics as a teenager can be both challenging and rewarding. Developing effective study habits is crucial for achieving academic success while maintaining a healthy balance with other aspects of your life. In this blog post, we’ll provide you with valuable insights and practical strategies to help you study effectively and excel in school.

  1. Create a Productive Study Space: Designate a quiet, clutter-free space for studying that is well-lit and free from distractions. Having a dedicated space helps signal your brain that it’s time to focus.
  2. Set Clear Goals: Break down your larger academic goals into smaller, manageable tasks. This not only makes studying more achievable but also gives you a sense of accomplishment along the way.
  3. Use Active Learning Techniques: Engage actively with the material by summarizing, highlighting, or teaching the content to someone else. Active learning reinforces your understanding and retention of the material.
  4. Practice Time Management: Create a study schedule that allocates time for each subject and includes short breaks. Time management prevents procrastination and ensures you cover all your subjects evenly.
  5. Chunk Information: Break down complex subjects or chapters into smaller chunks. This makes the material easier to digest and prevents feeling overwhelmed.
  6. Strategize: Know what subjects to start studying first, and pay attention to how long your can go before needing a break.[av_promobox button=’no’ label=’Click me’ icon_select=’no’ icon=’ue800′ font=’entypo-fontello’ label_display=” color=’theme-color’ custom_bg=’#444444′ custom_font=’#ffffff’ size=’large’ box_color=” box_custom_font=’#ffffff’ box_custom_bg=’#444444′ box_custom_border=’#333333′ gradient_color_direction=’vertical’ gradient_color_1=’#000000′ gradient_color_2=’#ffffff’ gradient_color_3=” border_promo=” border_promo_width=” border_promo_width_sync=’true’ border_promo_color=” border_radius_promo=” border_radius_promo_sync=’true’ box_shadow_promo=” box_shadow_promo_style=’0px,0px,0px,0px’ box_shadow_promo_color=” link=’manually,http://’ link_target=” title_attr=” hover_opacity=” sonar_promo_effect=” sonar_promo_color=” sonar_promo_duration=’1′ sonar_promo_scale=” sonar_promo_opac=’0.5′ id=” custom_class=” template_class=” av_uid=’av-346jcr’ sc_version=’1.0′ admin_preview_bg=”]
    Have you ever read a couple of paragraphs and when you finished, you realized that you have no recollection of what you read? This is called “Thrashing.” It’s a cool word for when your brain is sort of full. When you are reading, the information goes into a part of the brain that holds the information while it gets filed away for recall. Once that part of the brain is ‘full’ it cannot take in any more information. To deal with thrashing, take a 15-minute study break and get some fresh air.
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  7. Use Visual Aids: Create diagrams, mind maps, and flashcards to visualize complex concepts. Visual aids help you understand and recall information more effectively.
  8. Review and Revise Regularly: Review your notes and study materials regularly, spacing out your revision over time. This helps reinforce your memory and prevents cramming.
  9. Practice Self-Testing: Quiz yourself or use practice questions to test your understanding. Self-testing helps identify areas you need to review and builds your confidence.
  10. Seek Help When Needed: If you’re struggling with a particular subject, don’t hesitate to ask for help. Reach out to teachers, peers, or tutors for clarification.
  11. Prioritize Self-Care: Remember that a healthy mind and body are essential for effective studying. Get enough sleep, eat nutritious meals, exercise, and engage in activities you enjoy.
  12. Stay Positive and Manage Stress: Cultivate a positive mindset and manage stress through relaxation techniques like deep breathing and mindfulness. Don’t let anxiety hinder your academic progress.
  13. Celebrate Progress: Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Recognize your efforts and the improvements you make along the way.

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Effective studying is not just about memorizing information; it’s about adopting strategies that promote deep understanding and retention. By creating a productive study environment, setting clear goals, using active learning techniques, and practicing time management, you can excel in school while maintaining a balanced life. Remember that consistency is key, and each step you take toward effective study habits brings you closer to academic success. With dedication, determination, and the right tools, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself in your educational journey.

*Published August 22, 2023

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Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level-2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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Linus Drops his Blanket

In the classic A Charlie Brown Christmas, Charlie Brown frantically asks if anybody knows the true meaning of Christmas. The eternally sweet Linus, with his security blanket in tow, walks to center stage of the school auditorium, drops his security blanket, and confidently recites the Biblical account of the true meaning of Christmas.

I do not believe that Linus’ dropping his security blanket is accidental. I believe that it is symbolic of how we don’t need comfort objects/behaviors, like a security blanket or a nervously fidgeting, when we are talking about what we truly believe, whether it is a spiritual/religious story, an ethical or moral stance, a political opinion or social preference. When we are truly authentic in presenting our beliefs, there is no malice, no shaming, no judging, no passive-aggression, etc. Instead, there is a clear genuineness, an authenticity that is disarming instead of alarming.

Sometimes, that security blanket takes the form of judging people for their different beliefs and opinions. When we are truly confident in our beliefs, we don’t quarrel . . . so nobody quarrels with us. This is a reference to Chapter 22 of the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu:

Yield and overcome;
Bend and be straight;
Empty and be full;
Wear out and be new;
Have little and gain;
Have much and be confused.

Therefore wise men embrace the one
And set an example to all.
Not putting on a display,
They shine forth.
Not justifying themselves,
They are distinguished.
Not boasting,
They receive recognition.
Not bragging,
They never falter.
They do not quarrel,
So no one quarrels with them.
Therefore the ancients say, ‘Yield and overcome.’
Is that an empty saying?
Be really whole,
And all things will come to you.

(translation by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English)

It’s a special time of year for many people, and a difficult time for many as well; Let’s not quarrel. Let’s not boast. Yield and overcome. That’s Linus. I find it interesting that he even has that security blanket.

Learn more about Counseling in Austin.

Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level-2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training by the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.